So many people are lonely in the later part of their lives. Nobody cares about them; all seem to be indifferent to them and isolation kills them much before death actually takes over.
It leads me to wonder after all the work put into life, at this stage in life what really matters? Would it be encashing the relationship bridges built or would it be loneliness due to inability to connect with others.
Three simple formula if applied in our life – at any stage of life, can help us in the circle of life. I recommend this specially for those loners who are shy, unable to socialise as they haven’t developed the skills to do so and have stayed on the side-lines. To come to the centre stage of life, these three formulae are good to practice.
Formula 1: Communicating to understand
Some people are battling with a little more served by life- they are unable to handle it & feel overwhelmed by their situation. Many such people come into our lives. They do not seek your advice, opinion, point of view, expertise even though they may say so. What they may need is good listening, non-judgemental understanding of their situation and an interested human being in their journey. Can you be that person?
Formula 2: Live in the here & now. Let go of the past.
Look into your life. Your past is like a mermaid– enigmatic, engaging and unreal. We consciously are aware that no element of the past can be changed (situation or our perception). Yet we chase the past with vigour and relive so many moments that really can be avoided. So, to add to our own value, self-exploration & development we need to severe ourselves from this enchantress – our past.
Formula 3: Live & let live goes a long way to accept a person
I know about my own uniqueness, individuality, space, boundaries with others, prioritizing myself over others etc. And then, I get caught up in the mesh of wanting to change others and put them into moulds of my making! I get completely oblivious of the former state of being that works for me, has a huge possibility of working for others too. This leads to a lot of stress to all – pressure in all directions can lead to a burst.
These three simple formulae help in drawing people into our lives. Keeping our lives green & nourished with relationships and away from loneliness. Go ahead, and build more bridges.
